Dating girl hangs out with ex city data forum - think, that
 04-27-2012, 10:42 AM | ||
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This rarely ends up well in the end. I have one ex who I could have conceivably been very close friends with, had we not been involved romantically. But too much pain and heartbreak occurred during the fallout, and I realized that I could not trust him. If I couldn't trust him as a partner, how can I possibly trust him as a confidante? I think a lot of people put on their rose-colored glasses and negate the discord/dysfunction that occurred during old relationships, and seems like the girl you're seeing is one of them. You can be very polite about this. You don't have to demand a thing. Simply tell her that you're not comfortable with getting serious about anyone who's best friends with an ex and leave it at that. Maybe after enough men tell her this, she'll get a clue and cut him loose.    |
| 04-27-2012, 11:10 AM | ||
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Oops, I accidentally misread the poll...so my vote is really yes, I would be uncomfortable. I know we've discussed this before, but I do NOT understand why people are friends with exes! Staying in casual contact is one thing or being Facebook friends...I realize you don't have to delete them from every aspect of your life like you never dated them, but there has to be a line drawn somewhere. Maybe if both people truly 100% mutually agreed they didn't have any chemistry, then MAYBE they could really just be friends. But how often do both people mutually agree to break up with no lingering feelings? I'd run away as fast as I could. No point in developing a relationship with someone when the ex isn't going away and you're uncomfortable with the situation. Last edited by strawberrykiki; 04-27-2012 at 11:11 AM.. Reason: typos |
| 04-27-2012, 11:51 AM | ||
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The bolded statements make me think it probably more than just friend feelings. I would just say to her the italic purple words ^^^^ of yours. Then go off that reaction. Who knows if she is acting from an emotional place or a bruised ego place? And maybe if she hangs out with you awhile and sees you as a better guy she will just let that dude fall off the face of the earth. Tread with caution. Do not move ahead until she does. |
| 04-29-2012, 01:15 PM | ||
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You are ONLY dating her... She is in two relationships, one with you and one with the guy she really loves. She is more intimate with him than you - and by intimacy I don't necessarily mean sex. Doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out you're just there to make him jealous. She wants him back and is using all of her feminine wiles to get him. Sorry to be blunt but deep down you know it's the truth otherwise you wouldn't be bothered by it. You can either sit by and accept sloppy seconds, or stop being part of her games. Don't hate her, she's just trying every trick in the book to get what she wants, which is him. |
| 05-01-2012, 04:45 PM | ||
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How convenient. Sounds pretty selfish to me. I wonder how much I respect the new person to really give them a chance if I had my ex around as my best friend, and left them hangin by the side as Mr. #2. If there are kids involved, then I can see how remaining amicable or good friends may work, but not to the point of relying on someone emotionally to tell all my secrets when that level of intimacy I look forward to sharing with my s.o. I'd confront the bull****. Then again, is it really worth fighting for? You deserve someone who isn't going to be in denial and to be fully present with you, not in a headspace for someone else (assuming she's into him still, even if emotionally). I definitely would not call any of my ex's my bff. Why the need to? Yesterday's business does not belong here. |
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