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There's just something about being a gamer. People who aren't gamers don't always seem to understand who you are as a person, though you try to explain it to them. If you surround yourself by other gamers, you might be called anti-social. And if you surround yourself with non-gamers, they don't understand your passions.
Insecurity is a common ailment to quite a number of people. It manifests itself in a large number of ways and can force us to make decisions which might not be of sound judgement. Diffidence is a terrible feeling and we all have something which we are insecure about. We have to work hard and diligently in order to overcome the trials and tribulations that accompany this condition.
Thanks to the way that gamer girls are constructed, problems with self-image, self-worth, and self-confidence can form. To many, gamer girls are beings who exude pure and raw power of personality, but that’s simply not true. Gamer girls are as varied as any other segment of the population. They are people first and gamers second. They get a lot of heat for being too visually stimulating and being too nice. When they are more distant, withdrawn, or any way different than the previous statement, they are shunned and ignored. It’s no wonder that they may have a hard time being able to express themselves.
31 Happy Wife, Happy Life
Having your own thing is great, cool, and all that jazz, but it really doesn’t seem to amount to much when you are constantly being ridiculed by the ones you love for partaking in your pleasures on your own time. I could not stand to be in a relationship where I was mocked and ridiculed by my partner for the things I like.
It’s really sad that she doesn’t seem to have the support system that is conducive to a fully harmonious relationship.
I hope that the same behaviors are not targeted towards their daughter. Poor woman; if she has friends outside of the home it would probably be a good way to escape the mistreatment that she is currently experiencing.
30 There's Someone For Everyone
I really can’t tell who the author of this piece is, could be either a very lonely woman or an incredibly bitter man trying to put women down for their pleasures. All of the hobbies mentioned are great activities and skills! Cooking is awesome, it’s useful and it is a great way for people to bond. Let’s all be honest here, we love good food and good company; don’t even try and front, you know that you love good food. Not everyone loves to cook, write, or read, but those are nice ways to pass the time and create a whole new world for you. Being well rounded is an important facet of dating and staying happy in a relationship. Picking up extra hobbies is also a good thing sometimes.
29 Kids Change Everything
First rule of parenting club: You have to drop everything just to take care of your tiny little human. Second rule of parenting club: say goodbye to the things you love because there is no time for you anymore.
Kids are a wonderful thing and you should have them if you want them, just know that it is a struggle.
This mom knows that. If we think back to when we were young, we might be able to think about all the sacrifices that our parents made for us. When thinking about them, we might come to the realization that mom likely never had a real break. Y’all, if you are able to make the decision, please just let your moms take some time for herself.
28 Ghosts Of Girlfriends Past
This story really doesn’t seem that straightforward and rational. Why would someone just block you for dropping about $100 on them? Especially if you've been with them for some time. Something just seems to be off about this with how disjointed it feels. I know, I know, I shouldn’t pass judgement so quickly but it seems more than likely that this person said or did something that was creepy and highly uncouth which prompted the recipient to block them to prevent further harassment. That might be entirely wrong and I honestly hope it is, but we’ll probably never know for sure. Humans are weird; we do weird things often to our detriment. Whatever the case, what’s done is done.
27 The Simple Things
We can go all day about the gamer girl part, but pretty sure we just want to know where this person is looking for love, because it really shouldn’t be that hard to find someone who knows how basic hygiene works. Sure people may forget to brush their teeth every now and then or something, but that is normal.
Might be over reacting to what was presented there.
I sincerely doubt that they've never met one gamer girl who has decent hygeine! They're certainly out there and maybe he's just looking in the wrong places. Let’s just hope that this person isn’t the most crazy about everything having to be absolutely perfect; that would be creepy and maddening.
26 Jealousy Takes Three
There are few feelings that are worse than jealousy, especially when it is coupled with feelings of inferiority. The insecurities that we feel can take a toll on us and our relationships, so she should probably just sit her boyfriend down and talk to him about them. It isn’t easy to do, but a clear and open line of communications between partners can help make life easier for them both. There are a number of reasons as to why she may feel inferior to women who play games, yet she should tell herself that she is a person who deserves to be loved. Confidence is a major facet of self-image, something which she seems to not have very much of.
25 The Meaning Of A Message
Threats are just plain not cool. Really, it takes a certain kind of idiot to send someone a message threatening them just because they are a woman daring to have fun in a way that isn’t causing anyone any pain. I’ve been rather removed from certain game series for a while now, but the behavior remains equally unacceptable.
It is a rather draining experience to have someone tell you something like this, and the repetition of such threats just numb you.
Once they cease to shock you, the threats just get boring and make you want to stop for that reason. My recommendation is to just soldier through and go through the appropriate channels for restitution. Keep yourself safe in case one of those clowns decides to act.
24 Looking For Attention
Aggression, like cupcakes, is an answer to your problems, but it is pretty much never the proper answer. I know, I know, it’s more than likely hyperbole on her part, but still, it’s a bit ridiculous to state. If you can’t express yourself without resorting to this rhetoric, probably shouldn’t say it, you know? The person who wrote this is most likely young, dumb, and restless; they will almost undoubtedly outgrow these tendencies. This Whisper confession is pretty cringy in and of itself. Just do and let do, live and let live, it’s pretty simple. It is not really that hard to be a gamer and have other interests, so maybe this person should get more hobbies and stop worrying about everyone else’s lives?
23 Skyrim Belongs To The Dunmer
People will watch anything so long as it can adequately grab their attention, ranting and Skyrim videos are no exceptions; what you need to do is market yourself in a way that will attract the viewers that you want to have.
Vanity is one of the main reasons that people try and do anything related to the media and it is enticing.
Comedic ranting, hyperactive playing, and the like are usually pretty popular it seems. Worst case scenario is that you’ll get strapped for ideas for a while, but it won’t be quite as desolate as the Sea of Ghosts. From my experience, as well, Whisper is not the place you want to try and fish for ratings on because its users can be quite unreliable.
22 A Skewed Reality
Aren’t siblings the best? Of course they are, especially when they tell you that there is not a single person out there who will love you for your hobbies. Most guys seem to like girls who partake in some of their hobbies; I might be optimistic on this, but I like my own partner to share at least enough of my hobbies so that we can bond over things. The sister in this situation is being a jerk, no doubt, and shouldn’t have said such things to her sister; she really should apologize to her. It really hurts to be told that you are incapable of being loved simply because you do something which does not harm anyone, especially when you are a young adolescent.
21 Sleeping Away The Day
Everyone has a life that they want to live and they should pursue it if it doesn’t hurt anyone, even if that means that you elect to completely shut yourself from the outside world, though. Why is it so weird?
Well, it’s because humans need to interact with others of their species since we are such social creatures.
There are a number of reasons that you might choose to isolate yourself from others of the species, but they don’t really amount to anything particularly healthy in most cases. If the goal is to find a long term partner, it’s difficult to do that if you won’t go out and meet them. Call me a sap, but I’m hoping that this behavior isn’t from something being wrong in her life.
20 Living In A State Of Exception
Talking to people can be hard. Forming those bonds between others is difficult to do, especially since there is only so much that we can really know about the people who surround us. This woman is definitely experiencing that because she doesn’t have anyone to talk to about one of her favorite activities because they think she is weird or because she doesn’t fit the niche looks that they think that a gamer girl should fill. This is a perfect example of how playing games is irrelevant to who you are and what you look like. Video games are a great way to find connections, but only if people feel up to being open and receptive; they are ways of expressing ourselves and escaping life.
19 Fitting The Stereotype
There are many problems in the world, racial and gender based stereotyping are two of them. This stereotyping leads to a lot of alienation on all fronts thanks to social pressure being applied on all sides in an attempt to force you to behave a certain way.
It’s a way that oppression affects individual people as well as the collective.
The woman who wrote this Whisper piece definitely feels it and should be free to express herself just as she pleases by enjoying whatever it is that she wants to enjoy. It should be a base freedom that you can pursue your own avenues to happiness through entertainment like this, but cultural attitudes dictate that it can only be afforded to certain people depending on the country in which you live.
18 No Girls Allowed!
We can see how this may adversely affect the dating pool and even the friendship reserves. Many men do have their masculinity tied to being able to beat a woman in every little thing that is within the field of “masculine hobbies,” to which video games belong. This is not the most healthy as it can influence people to make irrational decisions as well as distance themselves from others. It hurts everyone when this takes place because it limits our ability to be who we are. If a woman wants to be a gamer, let her, if she wants to watch anime, let her be herself. A woman playing a game shouldn’t be considered threatening to someone’s masculinity, if it is, bro it's pretty lame.
17 The Sound Of Silence
Loneliness knows no race, no gender, no creed, and no hobbies. It is a predator that can strike anyone, anywhere, at any time. It is just plainly horrible to not feel like you have any other person to relate to, to talk to, to love, or anything.
This loneliness can lead to other symptoms and should really be looked after.
I don’t want anyone to be hurt, I don’t want anyone to be so isolated that it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy; I only want the best in everyone to be shown. So I feel terrible for this woman. I really hope that she is getting the help that she needs to properly cope with this and work on through it; the same goes for any of you who are reading this.
16 Two Can Be As Bad As One...
To quote Three Dog Night, “Two can be as bad as one; it’s the loneliest number since the number one.” Why is it so? When many of us get married, we think that everything is going to be happiness and sunshine all the time, but in reality, a lot of folks become withdrawn and isolated from the rest of the world through any number of means; this can be exacerbated by having kids. Everyone needs friends and everyone in a relationship needs to have people other than their spouses and children (if applicable) to socialize with. It helps to reinvigorate them and possibly give them new ideas as to how best go about problems which may arise in their marriage. Besides that, friends are a great way to relax when we’re stressed.
15 One Of The Boys
There are few creatures as cruel as kids; they are generally unable to see that far beyond their own understanding of themselves, lacking a certain level of empathy that they will likely develop later in life.
They like to express themselves in the ways that they want to, but they also want acceptance from their peers which creates tension.
That tension can often lead to a bullying problem. Many of us have experienced bullying in one form or another and have been able to move on, others, however, have not been so lucky. It goes a long way to show a little kindness, you might not change the world by doing this, but you may have just changed the world for that one person.
14 Something Everyone Wants
You have probably noticed a trend within a number of these Whisper posts; acceptance is something that everyone wants to have. Another trend you may have found is that women of color are under a particular set of pressures to conform to society’s construction of them. It’s not really right and leads to a lot of problems, which includes mental health issues. Freedom of choice is something that we value in our Western sensibilities and when that choice is denied, it causes us to feel sad for the victims in many cases. This woman is clearly accomplished and knows how to have fun, I hope that she can find someone who will help her not be quite so alone in this world, that would be a happy ending to this story.
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