Needy guys in beginning of dating

The stereotype is that women are usually the needy ones, but that doesn’t mean there aren’t guys out there who require a lot of attention and who latch onto the first girl who shows them a little bit of interest. That’s why, if you’re an independent woman with your own life, you need to be on high alert for a guy who exhibits the following red flags, because they mean he’s going to be clingy as hell:

He tries to rush things.

Clingy guys need to be in a relationship and they need a girl who accommodates their every whim. If you’re his girlfriend, he’ll have more leverage for getting what he wants — hours and hours spent together whenever he pleases.

He double texts… often.

If you don’t respond to a text within a certain time frame, he’ll probably send the classic ‘???’ to try to prompt you to write back. Or he’ll just act like he doesn’t even notice you aren’t writing back and continue to ramble on. Clearly he has nothing more important going on so he needs your undivided attention.

He doesn’t really have any close friends.

He’ll have a few acquaintances, work buddies and friends from school that live on the other side of the country, but actual guys he can call anytime to go out for a drink with so you can go out with the girls without him trying to tag along? Nope.

He needs to know what you’re doing all the time.

He likes to text all day long even though you’re both at work. If you don’t respond for an hour, he’ll casually ask where you’ve been. If he’s not with you, he wants to know exactly what you’re up to, and although it might seem sweet at first, eventually it will become annoying and possibly even downright creepy.

He pouts when you have plans that don’t involve him.

Since he never has any big plans of his own, he expects to be invited to everything you do. He doesn’t want to stay home alone while you’re out having fun. While it’s nice he wants to be having fun with you, you still need time apart. If he doesn’t get that, you’re going to have some issues.

He fishes for compliments.

A guy who needs constant validation of his worth is a guy who is never going to be comfortable with having separate interests. He’ll think that if you really like him, you’ll want to be around him all the time and if he can’t have that, at least he can manipulate you into telling him how great he is instead.

He’s all over your social media feeds.

When you’re apart, he’s on your Instagram liking the selfie you posted that morning or on your Facebook commenting on a video you shared last week. If he can’t physically be with you, he’ll satisfy himself with your social media presence, and he has no problem liking ten pictures in a row from a bachelorette party you went to last year. No boundaries whatsoever.

He latches onto your hobbies.

If you’re going to a painting class one night or your weekly hot yoga session, he’ll pretend like he’s always wanted to try those things to get you to invite him along. Beware of the dude who tries to insert himself into every aspect of your life because once he grabs hold, he won’t be easy to shake.

He’s an aggressive cuddler.

Not only is he emotionally clingy, but he’s physically clingy. He needs to be touching you at all times, whether it’s in public, on the couch while you watch a movie, or while you’re trying to get some sleep. Don’t expect him to roll over after a few minutes either — he’s going to be strangle cuddling you all night long.

He’s a little too buddy-buddy with your friends and family.

Not that you don’t want the guy you’re with to get along with the important people in your life, but there’s a time and a place. He shouldn’t be texting your brother and making double date plans with your friends after meeting them once, it’s just weird.

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Courtney Hardwick By day, Courtney is a digital marketing copywriter living in Toronto, Canada. By night, she's a freelance lifestyle writer who, in addition to Bolde.com, contributes regularly to AmongMen.ca, Complex.ca and SheBlogs Canada. Want to chat about relationships, Stephen King or your favorite true crime podcast/documentary/book? She's on Twitter @courtooo

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