Dating a girl thats bisexual

7."I actually just came out to my youngest son a few weeks ago."

"I actually just came out to my youngest son a few weeks ago. He's 15 and his older brother is 18 (and hasn't been told) and I'd been wondering for a long time about how to address it with them, if I needed to address it, or if I should just let it be. My husband and I have been together since college — 29 years this past February — but I didn't realize I was bi until after we were married (25 years this October). I told my husband as soon as I made that realization. (It's one of those things that when you put the pieces together and suddenly you're like, Ohhhhhhhhh! You know that you've hit on the truth.) And, for most of our relationship, all it's really meant is making some past relationships with women make a whole lot more sense.

In the past year, my younger son has started asking some really insightful questions about gender issues and sexual orientation (like, 'Why is sexual orientation defined only by what body part goes where?'). A couple of weeks ago, during one of our conversations, I knew I had an opportunity to share this facet of myself with him. So I asked him, 'What do you think I am?' It took him a long time to answer, and I said, 'You've never really thought about it, have you?' And he said, 'Since you're asking, I'm assuming the answer isn't straight.' We had a great conversation about what being bisexual means, perceptions of it in both straight and gay culture, and what it means for me personally. His only real questions were if his dad knew (yes) and if his brother knew (no).

For him, it was just another thing to know about his mom, to file with things like my being a writer, growing up in Connecticut, etc. But for me, it was an amazing experience of feeling like he was finally seeing a more complete picture of who I am. Plus, honestly, it felt good to say it out loud. Even living in San Francisco, the assumption people make about me is that I'm straight."