 08-11-2008, 08:28 AM | | | 26,999 posts, read 26,027,802 times |
| Originally Posted by Tonythetigerman I have a girlfriend that sometimes makes strange statements involving other men. I wonder if she is trying to tell me something. Prior to me she was involved with a man that took her to a swap club a few times. She claims she wasnt interested, it wasnt her idea, and nothing happend. A recent example is when we were drinking at her sisters home late at night and she was drunk. Her sister's booty call lover called and was going to come over to stay with the sister. My gf had not meet him and seem very interested in him coming over. My gf and i were staying the night and would be in bed when he arrived. Despite that she was asking her sister if it was ok to come out of the bedroom and meet him. Also, later she and I were in the bed she said she wanted to answer the door when he came over while in her PJs.
For some reason the dude didnt show up. I was disappointed because i wanted to see just what she was going to do. If she would have flirted with him i would have dumped her that night because i dont share and she was not suppose to be into that eighter. I talked to her about it the next morning and she said she was Joking with her sister and also said she was testing me.
In addition to this incident she has made comments about being with other men or friends of mine and then says she is joking.
I already know to be careful with her and watch her closely. My question out there for this thread is : Do you think these type of comments are really jokes or is it a persons way to voice an inner desire that cannot be suppressed and they may really be serious or just wanting to test the waters? Also, does anyone else have examples of their partner making comments like this that makes us wonder if maybe they are really not joking at all? |
she might be looking for attention, but some huge, huge flags here..... |
08-11-2008, 09:37 AM | | | 2,237 posts, read 3,094,955 times |
| I personally hate mind games, and I think that's what she's doing with you. If you want something, just say it, no need to play games. I think what she really wants is to swap partners and she enjoys that kind of thrill, but she knows what kind of reaction she'll get from you, so she plays the mind games instead. I'd say dump her before you get too serious with her. |
08-11-2008, 09:42 AM | | | 2,397 posts, read 5,998,461 times |
| She is NOT joking. She's been in the lifestyle and, if she's telling you that she's gone to swap clubs several times, but nothing happened, she's lying through her teeth. If she really wasn't interested, she wouldn't have gone more than once. People tend to drop their inhibitions when they've had a bit to drink. Her actions speak louder than her words. If you're not interested in pursuing a swinger lifestyle and don't have any desire to be with someone who is, you need to cut her loose now. As for "testing" you, I doubt it, but, if that's what it is, then it's just cruel. |
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