Dating a midwest girl

09-08-2012, 01:24 PM

Been doing some thinking for a while and havent gotten any answers so i just wanted to get some opinions.

I have spent time and lived in many states and countries. Im not into hang ups and stops. Having been around various cultures, im open to many things socially and sexually. Im not trying to generalize as this post is mostly based on my experiences and of men that i have spoken to that spend time in the Midwest- however, i have not had many sexual encounters in these parts. I meet women on either here or at work functions. Most are over 30 and are professional working women. Its not necessarily about dating. Just going out and having a good time cause they know of my line of work and im up front about my intensity as a person and sexuality as a scorpio when appropriate in conversation. Yet, I don't pressure or come off as a sleaze. But almost all the ones that I have interests in some way seem to have altered perceptions of intimacy.

Women that I often meet in the midwest invite me over to their homes after the 2-3 date but not first hearing about all the dirty, sleazy sex hungry men at bars or online sites that they meet- but yet they send me half naked pictures of themselves via text. They expect me to to lay in their beds but to cuddle as we kiss or fool around. Then there are those that I meet that love to have phone sex that same night, get all wild in what they want to do yet fall off quickly and want to meet me the next day to get to know me as if we never had that conversation. Its bizarre. Going from 60 to zero. I call them out quickly and they get offended saying they want to get to know me better. They point out that it's ok to cuddle "over night" or they weren't trying to stimulate me to that level (despite me telling them of my drive)....

Again, not trying to generalize but a lot of men from out of town tell me similar experiences. And women that are from out of town that I meet in the midwest do not act this way. Its not necessarily a bad thing. Its just that it can be be perceived as teasing but many of them fail to realize that. Bringing men over to just cuddle within the first 2 dates or getting wild on the phone, sending sexy pics via text but not meaning to stimulate them is quite frustrating. Although our relationship can continue, i choose not to associate with women using that logic. Im not 17. Im well into my 30s and its all or nothing with me. I wont pressure you and will be reasonable but don't expect me to lay in your bed and cuddle especially after the 2-3 date. Just don't put us in that situation.

Recently, i met a women on friday. Went out that sunday and following wed. I inivited her to my place for a movie with no pressure. She asked to come over that friday but asked if she could pack a bag. I said yes but not pressure. We went for dinner then came back to my place (extended stay hotel suite with kitchenette but no couches). We are in my bed watching a movie and im in my draws and she is rubbing my chest. We start to kiss and i get on top as she says "we are just going to be teased tonight". I tried to play it off with no pressure. I made comments about the movie as to show it didn't bother me. But then she asked the question - "what's wrong, you don't seem the same". Needless to say we had the conversation but she said she only taught we would just cuddle.... I kicked her out, end of story.

Even if you haven't experienced this, and im sure it happens everywhere but not has happened as often as it does in the midwestern states. Why would women think its ok to put themselves or the man in this position?

09-08-2012, 01:41 PM

Some people recommend masturbation before a "date" so you won't feel "pressured" by Mr. Happy and his claims that every chic is a keeper, potentially.

If you make enough money however, I suggest you try to develop an appreciation of Man's invention of money and the institution of money based markets, and apply simple efforts in that direction until you meet nice girls of capital based morals who are willing to just love you and just be with you, even if only for a short term relationship in modern times. Then, if you meet free chics of social morals for free, you can try to be a better boy friend in modern times without the pressure of sex getting in the way.

09-08-2012, 03:31 PM

My dude daniel,

we could have a "session" and talk all day about the institution of money based markets..

But its just the mere point of not placing one or the other in a situation that a reasonable and or prudent person would consider to be teasing or having a distorted perception of stimulation. There are many times when i socialize with those of the opposite sex and enjoy their company. But if I am upfront and you express your desires as well and pull those stunts, then we will have problems.