Dating a jealous girl

To calm down your jealous girlfriend, try to show her that you understand her point of view by saying something like, “I understand you feel a little threatened by my close friendship with Melissa.” Or, if you’re confused by her reaction, calmly ask her to explain how she feels so she knows you want to understand her. Once she’s calmed down a bit, let her know how her jealousy makes you feel so you both understand each other. Try to use I-statements so she doesn’t feel like you’re attacking her. For instance, say, “I feel a little upset when you interrogate me about spending time with Melissa because it feels like you don’t trust me.” You can also reassure her that you love her and don’t want to be with anyone else to give her peace of mind. For more tips from our co-author, including how to encourage your jealous girlfriend to work on her self esteem, read on!