Sacramento mens dating forum

07-06-2013, 10:39 PM

Okay, so Im a 29 year old AA female, current Florida resident. Im a nurse who recently has been offered a position in Sacramento. I started applying for jobs a couple months back, Ive just about had it here in Destin, Fl. Im not sure if any of you are familiar with the area, but plain and simple...it's lower Alabama. The racism that I have to deal with on a day to day basis is off the meter!! I can only take so much. I go out to a bar, which is predominantly Caucasian (because that's just the demographics of the city) and I get looked at like im the PLAGUE!! Im by no means an ugly woman, im just BLACK. I recently ended a 3 year relationship with a Caucasian man, nothing to do with race...we just both decided to part our separate ways, but everywhere we went people stared at us like we should be ashamed of ourselves. Lol. It's just a lot to deal with. So, my question is, for any current or past Sacramento residents, WHAT is the dating scene like for people of color?? Im open to anyone who is attractive and is attracted to me. Race isn't an issue for me. I realize that because im chocolate, I will have to deal with a certain amount of racism anywhere I go...but is it on such a large scale as it is here in lower Alabama/panhandle Florida?? Im just at an age now that I would like to live somewhere a little more accepting. Id really like to take this job, but if theres any other cities anyone can recommend that's a little more accepting of educated blacks and/or interracial dating, Id love to hear your thoughts.

07-06-2013, 11:18 PM

Dating or interracial dating should not be an issue in CA, especially in Sacramento. I have many family members who dates outside their race and have never had any issues. The media keeps telling me that Asian men are the least desirable men and yet myself, friends, cousins, and brothers have never once had an issue in finding women to date. Some of my cousins only date white women. So if the so called least desirable men like me and my associates can find get into relationships.....you shouldn't have any problem. Oh and we don't give a flying F what any one else thinks who we date.....you shouldn't either!

07-08-2013, 11:13 AM

Whew, I thought AA meant she was teetoddler. That'd definitely be a hamper on things

I wouldn't say it's perfect and I'm sure there are a ton of examples people can give of encountering prejudice. But I can with certainty, that you'll encounter less here than elsewhere. I'd go further and wager that this is one of the more accepting and integrated mid-size cities in the country. It has a long history of diversity and acceptance (partially from a long history of immigrants, but also because California has long history of aggressive laws against discriminating in the workplace and state jobs have long been quite diverse). From what I see, speaking as a white man, I see a lot of what I perceive as true diversity in the places I go. True, as in, not just correlated to other things like socioeconomic status or location. All that said, I have no idea about the dating scene, but I don't have any reason to think you'd have too hard of a time here.

Good luck as you consider the move. Let us know if there are any other questions you have about the place.

07-11-2013, 09:48 AM

I agree, the Sacramento area is more accepting of inter-racial couples, it's very common

but you could still experience racism , Ive had red neck types try to run me off the road and swing a stick at me while driving and give me the bird just for being a minority