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Warning: If you are still in level 1 of dating Israeli men, do not read this. I repeat. Do not read this.
Level 1: The days where all the Israeli men look like rainbows and unicorns. No flaws, highly democratic, liberated sort of fabulous level like all dating stages, Israeli or not. This level entails the hardship of looking away while walking at Allenby and the rude practice of staring. Women don’t want to be cat-called but seriously, when flocked together, we are the worst in talking about men, most especially if you are single and foreign in a country where men are extremely physically attractive.
As a human being who finds it very easy to adjust to major cultural differences, I wasn’t surprised that in just a matter of weeks, I was able to unlock level 2. It wasn’t difficult because Israeli men are usually straightforward and spontaneous. This seemed to be one of the best features of my life in Tel Aviv. I found it so easy to be here not because of the men but the people of Israel in general.
I am a woman who is not expecting anything when it comes to set up dates. When a girl friend tells me, “I want you to meet someone! You are going to like him,” I simply say OK because I know I’ve got nothing to lose. To be honest, all the long-time friends I have now are from failed Tinder dates. I find it amazing how I was able to build platonic relationships through a dating app which is like a fairy Godmother to the miserable singles. Aside from making friends in a foreign city, I also use it to market my blog/business which is, in turn, 100% effective all the time — to the point that Israeli men recognised me in the streets of Tel Aviv. That was a sensational return of investment for me.
Let me tell you more about my newfound wisdom about dating Israeli men. 100% loyal readers of this blog are very open-minded but at the same time, 100% of passers-by will choose to find the way I write my experiences a grave stereotype to mankind. I respect how we all, men and women alike, opt to see things differently and you’re welcome to do so!
THE EXTREMES
I have arrived at a conclusion that nobody is in the middle ground here. Every Israeli man is on the opposite side of the meter. In general, when you are dating an Israeli man, they keep the tradition of charm, allure, and passion that will make you fall head over feet. It’s a default feature. Sure, they might be the most chill people I’ve ever met but not when it comes to relationships or dating. They are freaked. They can’t keep still.
To make it more clear, let’s visualise the lowest and the highest measurements of a meter:
Low aka swipe-right-let’s-have-sex
Liz Gilbert said that every city has a word: Vatican is “power”, New York is “achieve”, Los Angeles is “succeed” and Rome is “sex.” I differed when I got to know Israel. Rome’s word is not sex. It’s Tel Aviv’s. It’s a municipal pastime here and everyone have joined the bandwagon.
The “coolest” kids on the block enjoy this type of “dating.” (That was a lot of quote and quote in one sentence, but anyway, welcome to Israel!) Being in dates multiple times is inevitable but when the bond is building deeply to the direction of eventually being in a relationship (aka going to the normal parameter), they tend to walk away even if nothing is wrong. They just don’t want to engage nor participate in a deeper level of intimacy because of a myriad of reasons.
They wanted to be in control, unfortunately. I didn’t understand why at first. But you know, different humans, different life dynamics. I am a pure believer of the going with the flow adage. If it happens, it happens. If not, then I move on. Not that there are many fishes in the Mediterranean sea but that’s what I do. I move on. I keep the faith. I understand that some things don’t work out and it’s okay! But to control the situation is a total turn-off for me. If it happens to you, don’t be confused if one day, they want to stop seeing you and couldn’t explain why. They are afraid of a deeper engagement. It seems like it’s a responsibility for them when in fact, we can all just chill and avoid ruining something beautiful.
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