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High-maintenance women often get a bad name. They’re women with expensive tastes who expect men to fund their luxurious lifestyles. They’re women who take three hours to get ready for dates and spend half their lives at Sephora, buying makeup they can’t live without. But wait – who said being high-maintenance was always a bad thing? Sometimes those qualities that seem to be turn-offs can actually be attractive. This is because high-maintenance traits can actually be based on healthy, appealing qualities. For example, a woman who spends a lot of time on her appearance isn’t necessarily vain – she might actually just be interested in caring for herself. Similarly, a woman who wants to purchase designer labels and take extravagant holidays might not actually be looking for a man to foot the bill for her luxury lifestyle – she’s a high-maintenance woman who pays her own way. What’s wrong with that? Other benefits that come with being high-maintenance include women knowing what they deserve and not being afraid to express themselves, as mentioned in an article on Bolde. And it’s not just women who think being high-maintenance can be good. According to Reddit, some guys really prefer to date women who are high-maintenance. Here are 20 Reddit guys who like a high-maintenance woman and why.

20 Looking Good Doesn’t Mean A Woman's Difficult

At least, in my opinion, it has nothing to do with your clothing or makeup; there's no shame in ensuring that you look great every day because that doesn't necessitate that you're difficult. - iseeyoutroll

Being a high-maintenance woman is often associated with looking good, whether that means wearing makeup that looks professionally applied or wearing the latest fashionable clothing. But, a mistake some people make is assuming that when a woman looks like she's just stepped off a fashion runway, it must mean she's hiding some negative personality traits in her Gucci or Chanel handbag. For example, people might assume that she's stuck-up, vain, or not approachable. That's not necessarily the case! It's unfair to judge people's personalities based on how they look. Just because a woman likes to dress up before leaving the house, it doesn't mean she's going to be a mean or self-absorbed person. Besides, even if it takes the woman in question three hours to get ready every morning, and lots of trips to the hairdresser or nail salon, those are activities she enjoys doing and doesn't say anything about her personality.

In fact, looking good might actually boost some of her positive personality traits.  A study that was published in Cogent Psychology journal found that when women wear makeup, they report feeling that they're more beautiful, which boosts their self-esteem and even increases their cognitive performances. Wow!

19 So-Called Negative Traits Associated With Being High-Maintenance Can Reveal An Interesting Personality

To me, high maintenance is someone who needs a lot of attention, talks a lot, and can't sit still for more than 10 minutes. It isn't a turn-off, I find it incredibly attractive. My type of woman is someone who is incredibly high maintenance, and very girly. - Deleted

It's quite refreshing to hear someone say that they find the so-called negative traits of being high-maintenance attractive qualities in a partner! The above Reddit user refers to such traits, such as someone who can't sit still for a long period of time, which is interesting because it goes to show that what defines a high-maintenance person really does differ for different people. It's not always about how one looks on the outside but can refer to what they're like when you get to know them.

This Reddit post proves once and for all that it's important for people to be themselves on dates. They might be giving off signals that are actually attracting their partners without even knowing it. Imagine if a woman who went out on a date with this Reddit user tried her hardest not to be a busybody or chatterbox. She'd be hiding so-called "flaws" that actually were attractive elements of her personality! So it just goes to show: high-maintenance doesn't always have to be a turn-off.

18 Wanting Attention Isn’t Always A Bad Thing

A high maintenance girl is one that demands attention (not a bad thing), money (not a bad thing in itself), things (baubles, shinies) not a totally bad thing either. - Deleted

While this Reddit user lists some common characteristics of high-maintenance women - wanting money and material goods - the point about demanding attention is worth looking into. A woman who wants her partner to give her lots of attention can be labeled "clingy" by men, but clearly, that's not always a bad thing.

Demanding attention from one's partner can sometimes be a way for a woman to stand up for herself. For example, if her boyfriend never has time for her on the weekends, she might tell him that she expects him to want to spend time with her. If they're dating, that's a completely reasonable request! The guy she's dating might think she's acting immaturely or being too emotional; he might moan to his friends that she's emotionally high-maintenance. But we have to draw a distinction between being unfairly high-maintenance and a woman who just knows what she wants and isn't afraid to ask for it. So, for example, if a woman's demanding attention from her boyfriend by pitching up unannounced at his workplace, that can be seen as emotionally taxing. On the other hand, wanting attention and quality time from one's partner isn't actually such a large expectation to place on them. It's really not high-maintenance at all!

17 Women Who Take Pride In Their Appearance Are Attractive

I don't mind high maintenance woman at all, as long as mannerisms aren't detrimental to either me or her. I actually somewhat admire women who do because I like a woman who takes pride in her appearance. - Deleted

This Reddit user touches on an interesting thing about dating high-maintenance women: as long as their behavior isn't damaging to their partners, then it's not a bad thing for them to want to take pride in their appearance. A common way in which a high-maintenance woman could negatively affect her partner as if she expects him to maintain her glamorous lifestyle for her. Being a gold-digger is often linked to being high-maintenance. Some women might want to look amazing from head to toe while expecting that their partners enable them to achieve this goal. So, they might want their partners to buy them designer clothing, makeup, hairdresser appointments, or other things on a regular basis. Other high-maintenance women, on the other hand, will maintain themselves. They don't need their partners to fund their extravagant lifestyles, which is empowering and shows that they're independent women. This has the effect of increasing their attractiveness to some partners, which can make high-maintenance women a catch instead of a criticism.

16 Being High Maintenance Makes A Woman Worth It

It has been my experience that high maintenance = high reward. I have a whole lot more respect for people that demand much of me. I also tend to give much more than expected, just because that's the kind of guy I am. - race_car

High-maintenance women sometimes have really great things going for them that some people just don't notice. This Reddit user clearly does, by stating that high-maintenance women bring high rewards to their romantic relationship. This can happen in many ways. A woman who's high-maintenance probably has a high set of dating standards. She knows what she wants and she won't settle for less. This might make some people view her as difficult or challenging, but to the right guy, these qualities are attractive. She won't put up with a man who doesn't treat her the way she thinks she deserves, such as by not being chivalrous or honoring his word. For example, if he says he'll call her, he'd better call her otherwise a woman of worth will tell him that she doesn't approve of his behavior.

It's worth noting that sometimes "high-maintenance" is used to describe a woman when really "a woman who values her self-worth" is a better description of her! And, this, in turn, causes her to be respected by others. As this Reddit user claims, he's got more respect for people that demand things of him. He rises up to the challenge because he knows that the "high-maintenance woman" will be worth his time. She'll push him to be a better man.

15 It’s Good To Have Opinions

I find it attractive when a woman has values, standards, and opinions as opposed to not having an opinion on anything and just automatically agrees with whatever I say. - ChuckyJo

One of the biggest mistakes women can make in dating is agreeing with what their male partners say or want. Some women might think they have to like the same things that their dates like, such as when it comes to interests and hobbies, in order to seem like a catch. Or, they might think they should agree with their partner's views in order to be liked. But doing that can put men off! It also backfires because the women will end up having to pretend to like certain things that they really don't like, or silencing their honest opinions. Why would someone want to put themselves through that? A high-maintenance woman won't resort to such dating games. She knows herself and she'll express her opinions and ideas without worrying about not being liked for them. That's what makes her so refreshing and attractive. Some women who do this might be seen as difficult because they're so outspoken, but the point is that they've got the strength of character, which is always a good thing to have when dating.

14 The Chase Is Fun

I'm like a cat in the sense that I love a chase, but once I catch the thing and it just rolls on its back the excitement is gone. On the other hand, a girl who I pick up super easily always makes me feel like hrmm.. maybe I can do better, or maybe she's been easily picked up by dozens of other dudes - Datworkbrowse

Hmmm, now this is an interesting one. We're always told that men like the chase in dating. They like to pursue women, and the more challenging the woman, the better. In fact, women are often told to play a little hard to get so that men see they're worthy of dating. The idea is that if anything comes to easily for someone, the fun of pursuing it is gone. As this Reddit user claims, if he can date a woman really easily and she doesn't offer any challenges to him, he might think that she's not as great as she seems or she's easy to date because she probably just dates anyone who asks her out. See, it's about a woman having standards and high self-esteem that are important. Although it's not always good to play hard to get because dating games make things complicated, a woman who's considered high-maintenance knows her worth and will want a man to rise up to meet her standards. That's what makes him want to invest in dating her.

13 High-Maintenance Women Bring Chivalry Back

I try to treat women with an extra level of care and deference, that's just my nature. - deleted

It's sometimes said that high-maintenance women are princesses who want to be treated like royalty. Although it can put some guys off, others really like women who are like this! It's not because they want a woman who feels she's better than anyone else, but because of how it makes them feel to be with such a woman. As can be seen in this Reddit user's post, he likes to treat women with care and respect. So, really, he's the one who's treating women like they're meant to be put on a pedestal. He might think that high-maintenance women are those who will appreciate men who do this, or even demand such behavior from the men they date, but it's really his choice that he's making. It's part of being a chivalrous gentleman, which is still appreciated by many women, both those who consider themselves high-maintenance and those who don't. For example, a Lindt Lindor Chivalry Report found that 78% of women would love to receive a romantic poem or letter, while 62 percent of women want to be complimented on their appearance. Chivalry isn't dead!

12 Some Guys Like A Woman Who Dresses Up

I'm going to be the odd one out here and say I pay a lot of attention to what women wear. I don't necessarily care if it's the paragon of current style, but I will definitely be much more attracted to a woman who is well-dressed than one who isn't. - another30yovirgin

It's a total myth to think that only women care about style and fashion - many men do too! That's why, when it comes to women who are considered high-maintenance because they pay attention to the clothes they wear, some fashion-conscious men actually like this trait. Being well-dressed tells the world many positive things about you. For example, it says that you care about yourself, you have healthy confidence, and you take pride in who you are. Clothing choices can also reveal your personality, which is great because it gives the world a glimpse into what you're about and who you are, such as if you're elegant or artistic. High-maintenance women who take extra care when choosing clothing to wear therefore give men lots of good messages about themselves. Plus, looking well put together will just make them walk taller and feel more confident, which is really what's attractive. It's about confidence, not clothes!

11 High-Maintenance Can Be Powerful

I think my favorite type of girl is the high powered, executive type. Business attire runs the show, super smart, well-off, very pretty. I have yet to meet a girl like that at my age, but have met some girls that I think will be that lady in a few years, so maybe I will eventually have a relationship with a powerful woman. - CellieBellie

This Reddit user is brutally honest about the type of woman he likes, from wanting someone who's smart and pretty, as well as powerful in her line of work. The image of a woman who's worked her way up the corporate ladder and looks good while doing it can be intoxicating. But what's really behind the need for a powerful partner? According to a Psychology Today article, people that are attracted to powerful people often believe that just by being close to them, they'll absorb some of that power and become more powerful themselves. Interesting stuff! So maybe those high-powered women who seem so unapproachable are actually intriguing to men. They might be seen as high-maintenance, but that's because it takes a lot of work to succeed at what they do. Hmmm, perhaps it's that determination and ambition that's really what's so attractive underneath their polished, powerful appearance.

10 Some Guys Want To Be The Providers

I'm very old-fashioned with this, I'd never accept cash from my SO more so out of principal…I love being able to help support my partner, she doesn't like it too much because she has had ex's that throw it in her face when they have helped financially whereas I feel proud to be able to help. - Random_hero23

When some men hear the term "high-maintenance woman", they immediately reach for their wallets and hide them from sight. The idea that women who are high-maintenance want men to provide for them is a common stereotype, but it's not always as simple as women being gold diggers. As this Reddit user clearly states, he loves supporting his partner and actually feels proud to be able to help her financially. Some men want to be providers, which is why they won't run in the other direction when approached by high-maintenance women. In fact, even if the women aren't chasing them for their money (such as the Reddit user's partner), these men might still want to provide for them. So, when you see a woman who appears to be high-maintenance with a new boyfriend, you can't assume that she's the one who demanded to be provided for - it might just be that he's attracted to women who let him support her.

9 Some Guys Are Interested In Trendy, Polished Women

I'm going to go against the grain here and say that I'd love it. I think women's fashion is really cool personally. I'd probably be more interested in her, as long as I was sure she bought the items for herself/wasn't expecting a dude to pamper her with shopping money. - P8ntslinger

Some guys like it when women aren't afraid to chase the fashion trends and be cool. "Cool" might be looking trendy in the latest fashions, or wearing the latest hairstyles. Of course, these things cost money, which is why when you see a woman who's polished you might immediately assume that she's spending lots of money to look that good - or getting someone to pay for her. But what's interesting is that some of the Reddit guys in this article are clearly okay with high-maintenance women if they're financially independent.  It's like that's the disclaimer: if you want to be high-maintenance, make sure your lifestyle doesn't drain your partner's savings account. It makes sense and is fair. If someone wants a high-maintenance lifestyle, then they've got to be willing to pay for it, with their own money and time. It's unfair for them to expect their partners to pick up the bills.

8 It's Nice When Women Depend On Guys Sometimes

I personally don't like it when a woman acts too independent. Not only do I like feeling wanted, I like feeling needed. - A_New_Knight

There are some mixed messages that float around in society. On the one hand, women are encouraged to be independent, but then, on the other hand, they're looked down upon if they're too independent. When dating, a woman who's too independent might not need her partner for anything, not even emotional support. This can cause some problems in the relationship because people want to feel loved and needed.

The interesting thing is that a high-maintenance woman traditionally appears to be needy. She's the woman who isn't afraid to be a bit clingy and require lots of emotional support from her partners. Some might call her a drama queen, although often it's not that extreme. It seems that being a bit dependent on one's partner is a good thing, based on this Reddit user's post. When you show your vulnerability, it makes you real. So, being emotionally high-maintenance can be a positive thing because it allows for that vulnerability to come out, which can bring you and your partner much closer.

Of course, there are limits to everything! Too much dependence on your partner can be unhealthy, just as much as being too independent can. It's really about finding a balance.

7 Being Outspoken Is Good

I like it when they rant about something. It shows they're passionate, and I don't want to date a dead fish with no interests. - deleted

Ha, a "dead fish with no interests!" That's such a great line, and really points to a larger dating truth: people who don't have passions and interests that get them out of bed in the morning are not only boring, but they're not quality relationship material. A high-maintenance woman, on the other hand, who isn't afraid to express her opinions (or "rant", as the Reddit user puts it), and who has passion, can be a great catch.

But why? What's passion really about?

Having passion in life is really about having a fiery attitude. It's when you chase hobbies and dreams, and never give up on achieving them. It's when you fight for your rights and opinions and aren't afraid to have strong opinions about everything - even things you hate, which can reveal passion in itself. An emotionally high-maintenance woman will be highly passionate, which makes her memorable and interesting to be around. She's proud and loud, and won't back down when it comes to things that are important to her. There's certainly never a dull moment in her company!

6 Looking Good Isn’t Just About What She Wears

Putting on makeup, wearing nice clothes out, ankle boots, red lipstick. Nice put together outfits, good smile. - Brooklyn8828

This Reddit user has a clear and specific idea of what he likes his partner to look like, down to her choosing to wear red lipstick. But it's really what he doesn't say that's important. All those items that his dream woman wears really say more about her than simply that she's trendy or likes to dress up. For example, wearing red lipstick can enhance the "good smile" that he likes in a partner. This can accentuate her kindness and warm personality. Similarly, when she's wearing nicely put-together outfits, she's really showing the world that she knows how to dress for her body shape and personality and that she feels confident when she leaves the house. Those are the qualities that can be much more appealing to a high-maintenance woman than the material goods she likes to wear.

Looking at the red lipstick specifically, it has the power to make women appear more confident. News.com.au reports that Grant Power, national face designer for Giorgio Armani, says red lipstick gives women an edge. "It's a color that also makes women feel strong and powerful - it's a bold statement," he says.

High-maintenance women are certainly no wallflowers - they choose to wear items that make them the center of attention, which can be intriguing and attractive.

5 Being High-Maintenance Shows Attention To Detail

Good nails with a solid color. For me personally, good nails on a girl boosts her attractiveness A LOT. Fake nails are great too as long as they are placed well and aren't freakishly long. Worn off polish or no polish at all is a big turnoff for me. - deleted