Dating site love an asian

Yu Wang, the founder of Tantan, says he is solving a societal problem brought about by young Chinese people moving to cities for work, often to places where they have no families or strong friendship circles. “In China, meeting people is a challenge,” he says. “It’s difficult because there’s no flirting culture. Very few young people go to bars and pubs. We wouldn’t strike up a conversation with a stranger.” Tantan provides the solution to this, boasting over 3 billion matches to date from 100 million users.

Another Chinese app, Momo, has got more of a hook-up reputation and is particularly popular with ex-pats living in China (make of that what you will). In order to combat the idea that it’s a place to go for casual sex, the founders have widened its reach to allow users to locate new friends in the area (much like Bumble has done with Bumble BFF), play online games together or join user-generated groups. This has proved popular in a culture where people are generally more reserved about approaching someone, even on dating apps, than they are in other parts of the world.

Southeast Asia

In Southeast Asia, meanwhile, negative perceptions around dating apps continue to linger. Finding love online has been historically frowned upon in many of the more conservative societies such as Malaysia and Indonesia, and this stigma has kept singles looking for love IRL (Internet parlance for "in real life"). A few tech innovators, however, have found a way to break these difficult markets.

We found that successful tactics used by US and European dating apps just didn’t translate to Asian societies, because of our more conservative dating norms

Paktor has quickly grown to become one of the biggest dating apps in Asia, and now has 15 million users in Taiwan, Singapore, Malaysia, Indonesia, Vietnam and Thailand. Their secret to success has been tapping into a need for discretion. Since they changed the rules and said people simply needed to enter a phone number to join, rather than link to a social media account, membership soared. Like Momo, they have also introduced group settings, where shy daters can get to know each other more informally. An eager market responded and hundreds of thousands of matches have been made.  

This includes co-founder Joseph Phua, who met his wife on Paktor two years after he launched the app. “We found that successful tactics used by US and European dating apps just didn’t translate to Asian societies, because of our more conservative dating norms,” he says. “Our approach had to be about thinking local, and Paktor started differentiating itself by tapping into our own knowledge of local culture and people.”

And he is not alone—throughout Asia, app innovators have been coming up with creative solutions to traditional cultural barriers. In India, meeting prospective partners is less of an issue than finding a place to spend time together when you live under the watchful eyes of your family. As a result of soaring hourly rates for Airbnb rooms, the (oddly named) app, Stay Uncle, helps “couples who need a room, not a judgment”.

Japan

In Japan, there is the opposite problem. While there is no shortage of love hotels, people are still looking for matches to meet them there. Apps vary wildly—at the traditional end, there is Omiai “where respectable guys and girls can meet” on websites that are so old-fashioned, you can’t even upload a picture. The name harks back to the concept of arranged marriage and users are urged to go on wholesome first dates such hiking or tea-drinking.

9monsters combines Tamagotchi, gay dating culture and cartoons

At the other end of the spectrum, 9monsters must be one of the most eccentrically modern apps around, given that it’s combines Tamagotchi, gay dating culture and cartoons. Depending on who you interact with online, your Tamagotchi hatches into one of nine monsters aligning with types within Japanese gay culture: chubby piggy, say, or bulky bison. Users then meet under that guise.

As 9monsters alone proves, dating apps have radically transformed the way we approach love and sex. And while hundreds of hand-wringing articles have been written about the death of the relationship and the dating apocalypse they have created, it is more realistic to admit they are a simple way of helping us get what we crave.

If you’re single and under 40 you've probably tried an app at some point, and whether your ultimate goal is marriage and babies, someone to keep your sheets warm for the next few hours or a gay Tamagotchi—dating apps are becoming the best way to get you there.